Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Mentoring Workshop

I recently had the opportunity to participate in a National Research Mentoring Network workshop hosted by the UMass Amherst Graduate School. Having mentored 8 honors students during my PhD, and looking forward to mentoring more in my post-doc and later career, I thought this workshop was worth the 9-hour commitment.

The session was highly engaging, based on discussion of case studies of mentors and mentees. I felt that these prompts were useful starting points that provided tangible examples of mentor-mentee mis- and non-communication. For example, what do you do when your mentee doesn't like their project, wants to do somebody else's project, constantly wants your attention, is upset because you made a mistake... Almost everybody in the room could relate to being on at least one side-- mentor or mentee-- of a similar experience.

I felt that I learned the most from this workshop not by discussing the cases, but listening to others' ideas. There was no "right answer" to most of the cases, but over the course of the workshop, we built up quite a list of diverse options to manage difficult situations. Probably more than any of us could have come up with alone. If mentoring is about finding ways to relate to and communicate with people who aren't exactly the same as yourself, it was helpful to have a range of interpretation of the problem and perspectives on optimal solutions.

Personally, I'm looking to improve my listening skills, patience, and flexibility in future interactions. I found myself looking to define an a priori strategy for each situation, and found myself thinking, "What a good idea" when it was suggested that a strategy could be flexible across personalities and time. Several participants made comparisons between parenting and mentoring. Although I'm sure that parenting is way more responsibility than mentoring, those comparisons emphasize the importance of communication and understanding in becoming a good mentor, the unique characteristics of each student, and the mutual learning process that needs to define these relationships.

If you get the chance to reflect on or improve your mentoring, consider it! Learn more about the National Research Mentor Network at their website. Big thanks to Beth Jakob for facilitation of the event, and to my wonderful students who have been so patient with an imperfect mentor.

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